That Wellness Podcast with Natalie Deering: Internal Family Systems with a Twist

Bonus: Guided Meditation for Guide, Unattached Burdens, and Part Awareness, with Robert Falconer

Sit back and relax as Bob Falconer guides you through a meditation to bring awareness to Self-energy, guides, unattached burdens, and parts.
 
Bob suggests that after you engage in this meditation to draw an outline of your body on a sheet of paper, and to draw (with colors preferably) whatever you saw or sensed during the meditation in, on, and around your body.
 
Enjoy! 
 
Note: Meditation modified from William Baldwin

Connecting with Guides and Past Lives, with Robert Falconer

In today's episode I am joined by IFS practitioner, teacher, and author Robert Falconer as we discuss in depth his passion for guides and past lives. 
 
Topics Discussed Include:
1. Bob Announces his new book, "When You're Going Through Hell, Keep Going"
2. What is porous mind vs. citadel mind
3. Connecting with guides with the constraint release model of IFS
4. The tools of discernment: Distinguishing between unattached burdens and guides
5. The different ways we can experience guides
6. Ways to connect with guides: Writing with your guide. The path meditation.
7. Bob leads a guided meditation to bring awareness to blockages/constraints, guides, UB's, and parts.
8. What are past lives? and the studies done to showcase proof of past life experiences in children
9. The impacts of our past lives and how to release the burdens attached
10. The benefits of bringing awareness to past lives
 
Robert Falconer is best known for his deep involvement with Internal Family Systems therapy as a practitioner, teacher, and writer. For much of his long career he has focused on the healing of childhood sexual abuse and other major trauma. He now is focused on placing IFS in a multicultural and historical context and working with the others within us - what we find in our minds that is not part of our systems, called unattached burdens and guides in IFS.
 
Bob has come to recognize and appreciate that how we conceive of ourselves and the boundaries of our minds is vitally important not only as a major cause of personal suffering but also as an underlying factor in many of our modern social problems. His new book, The Others Within Us, gives a clear description of how to work with unattached burdens and guides, as it explores the farther reaches and wider implications of this subject.
 
Bob Falconer:
Website: https://robertfalconer.us/
The Others Within Us book link: https://www.amazon.com/Others-Within-Us-Possession-Paperback/dp/B0C5P5HK35/ref=sr_1_1?crid=QFBVH855067W&keywords=the+others+within+us&qid=1706647319&sprefix=the+others+within+us%2Caps%2C131&sr=8-1
Past Lives Workshop Link: https://ifsca.ticketleap.com/pastlives/
 
Natalie Deering: 
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
    -IFS therapy and consultation
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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How to Be Self-Led in Relationships, Work, Parenting, and Spirituality, with Seth Kopald

In today's episode I am joined by certified IFS practitioner, Seth Kopald, as we discuss how to be Self-led from his new book Self-Led: Living a Connected Life With Yourself and With Others. 
 
Topics Discussed:
1. Seth's journey to IFS and how it helped going through a divorce and experiencing anxiety
2. Seth's intention for the book
3. What it means to be Self-led in relationships, the benefits of being Self-led in relationships, and how to do this.
    - What is a Self-led repair
4. What it means to be Self-led at work, the benefits, and how to do it/be it.
    - Self-led leadership for a thriving work environment
5. What it means to be Self-led in parenting, the benefits, and how to be Self-led when parenting.
   - How to get curious about the parts within the child, especially if they're acting out.
  - Awareness of shaming (micro and macro)
6. What it means to be Self-led in spirituality, the benefits, and how to.
   - What part is praying?
 
Seth Kopald is a Level 3, Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Practitioner with a PhD in Organization Management with a Specialization in Leadership and a Masters in Education. Seth's doctoral research was focused on creating safe climates in which people can share their voice, and has been committed to this practice with people and their parts ever since.
 
Seth is an experienced Program Assistant for IFS Trainings and has assisted lead trainers for Levels 1, 2, and 3. He works with individuals and couples to help them gain a more centered life with better communication and authentic relationships. He specializes in Self-led Parenting, Spirituality, and Parts Art. He is the author of the book titled Self-Led: Living a Connected Life With Yourself and With Others. 
 
Seth Kopald:
Website: https://www.sethkopald.com/
Purchase the Book, Self-Led from Amazon: https://a.co/d/h9dm8bX
Purchase Signed Copies of the Book Here: https://www.sethkopald.com/book-store
Purchase the Book, Self-Led from Barnes and Noble:
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/self-led-seth-kopald/1144403149
Instagram: @selfled_by_seth
 
Natalie Deering: 
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
    -IFS therapy and consultation
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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IFS and Direct Access: The Key to Unlocking the Secret History of Parts, with Dave Adamusko

In today's episode I am joined by certified IFS therapist and consultant Dave Adamusko as we discuss the power of direct access within IFS therapy.
Direct Access Workshop Link: https://multiplicityofthemind.com/direct-access/
 
Topics Covered Include:
1. Dave's journey to IFS and psychodrama
2. What is direct access
3. What is implicit direct access and why it is important
4. What is explicit direct access and why it is important
     - When and why to use explicit direct access
5. Why we can use explicit direct access all the time, not just in emergencies
6. How we can use direct access outside the therapy room and with everyday relationships
 
Dave Adamusko is a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private practice working mostly with adult individuals and couples in Mesa Arizona.  Dave is a Certified Internal Family Systems Therapist, and approved IFS Consultant.  In addition to his therapy practice he also works as a Guide for Onsite where he combines his passion for IFS with experiential personal growth workshops. 
 
Dave has been involved in the IFS community since 2016, and has been a Program Assistant for numerous Level 1 trainings as well as a frequent PA for Frank Anderson's L2 Trauma and Neuroscience training.  Dave, also works as a leadership consultant, helping business leaders incorporate the IFS foundations into their personal and work life.   
 
Dave Adamusko:
Direct Access Workshop Link: https://multiplicityofthemind.com/direct-access/
Website: https://www.therapywithdave.com/
Email: therapywithdave@gmail.com
Phone: +1 (215) 622-1447
 
Natalie Deering:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
- Mental health and consultation services
Instagram: @nataliedeering
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Call/Text: (859) 320-0865
 
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Thank you for listening! 
 
 
 
 

Connecting With Your Heart of Gold, with Betsy Fenzel

In today's episode I am joined by IFS therapist and author, Betsy Fenzel, as we discuss her new book, Heart of Gold.
 
Topics Covered in Episode: 
1. Betsy's journey to IFS and its connection to Buddhist meditation
2. Betsy shares about her inspiration and mentor Tara Brach for her heart of gold
3. Heart of gold as the Self
4. Intention for the book and who Betsy wrote it for
5. You are good, and you have this essential goodness. The importance for kids (and parents) to hear and know this message.
6. The power of compassion towards others and seeing/knowing they too have a heart of gold
7. Meditations, worksheets, and exercises for heart of gold awareness and access 
8. Betsy takes us through a guided meditation experience to connect with our heart of gold 
 
Betsy Fenzel is a mom of three and has a private therapy practice in the Washington, DC, area. Her experience with Internal Family Systems therapy, Buddhist meditation, and mindfulness inspired her to write Heart of Gold and share its beneficial messages with the world. In her free time, she loves to read, travel with her family, sing in her car, and give her dog belly rubs. She hopes one day every child will know about their heart of gold so they can bring their special light to the world.
 
Betsy Fenzel:
Therapy Services: https://www.betsyfenzel.com/
Book Website: https://www.betsyfenzelbooks.com/
Amazon Link for Book: https://www.amazon.com/Heart-Gold-Betsy-Fenzel/dp/B0CBVYGVRM/ref=sr_1_5?crid=296Y0YR18NN3N&keywords=heart+of+gold&qid=1704983919&sprefix=heart+of+gold%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-5
Email: betsy@betsyfenzel.com
Instagram: @booksbybetsyfenzel
 
Natalie Deering:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
- Mental health and consultation services
Instagram: @nataliedeering
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Call/Text: (859) 320-0865
 
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Interested in sponsoring an episode of the podcast? Upgrade your brand and let more people know about your amazing services or products by reaching thousands of people by sponsoring an episode for only $100!  Please contact Natalie at ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com for more information.  Thank you for your support! 
 
Thank you for listening! 
 
 

Motivation Made Easy with Dr. Shawn Hondorp

In today's episode I am joined by Dr. Shawn Hondorp as we discuss all things motivation, just in time for the new year!
 
Topics Discussed Include:
- Shawn's journey to IFS and her specialities of disordered eating and motivation
- The types of therapy modalities that were NOT working and how IFS has been beneficial for her clients and herself
- What is Self Determination Theory as it relates to motivation
- What is motivation
- Two main categories of motivation and how it impacts us
- Why shaming and critical energy doesn't lead to lasting change
- IFS as a 'how' to help people make shifts in motivation
 
Shawn Hondorp, PhD, ABPP is a board-certified Clinical Health Psychologist and health behavior expert.  She has a top-rated podcast called Motivation Made Easy: Body Respect, True Health where she outlines effective approaches to heal from disordered eating and improve health and well-being by looking at how research and real world experience collide via conversation and personal stories. 
 
She founded The Psychology of Wellness because she believes that freeing people up from the drain of disordered eating means more mental and emotional bandwidth available to create a more equitable and kind world. To achieve this goal, she creates supportive learning environments for professionals doing this courageous work so that they can use their unique gifts to make a bigger impact, without the burnout. She lives in Grand Rapids, MI, with her husband and two kids and pug named Teddy. Her dream vacation day is hiking along a lake surrounded by mountains holding a warm cup of coffee, followed by a delicious dinner and a soak in a hot tub with an ice cold hazy IPA.
 
Dr. Shawn Hondorp:
Website: https://drshawnhondorp.com/
Podcast: https://drshawnhondorp.com/mmepodcast/
Instagram: @psychology.of.wellness
 
Natalie Deering:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Call/Text: (859) 320-0865
Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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Glow Worthy: Practices for Awakening Your Inner Light, with Katie Silcox

Happy New Year!!  I'm so very excited to be back in 2024 with new episodes of the podcast!  Today's episode is a beautiful one as I sat with author and Ayurvedic mentor, Katie Silcox.
 
Katie Silcox is a New York Times best-selling author of the book Healthy, Happy, Sexy- Ayurveda Wisdom for Modern Women. She is a nationally recognized yoga teacher, hosts the podcast Spirit Sessions: Find Your True Spiritual Home, she's the founder of the Shakti School, a premier online certification school for women-centered holistic wellness, holds a masters degree in Ayurveda medicine, and has recently published her second book, which we’ll be diving into today, titled Glow Worthy: Practices for Awakening Your Inner Light and Loving Yourself as You Are- Broken, Beautiful, and Sacred. 
 
Topics Covered in Today's Episode Include:
1. Katie's intentions for the book: A remembering of what is already there inside of us
2. What is the glow, and its connection to Self energy
3. Importance of diversifying your identity, and, not identifying with your identity
4. Ways to remember your inner glow
5. The wound is the way
6. How we find our inner light
7. How to bring your glow to life
 
Katie is offering a special discount code for listeners to her year long Ayurvedic school program that starts January 17th 2024!!
****Discount Code for $100 off any of the payment options at the Ayurvedic School: use pod100 at checkout
 
Katie Silcox:
Website: https://www.katiesilcox.com/
The Shakti School Website: https://theshaktischool.com/
Glow Worthy Book: https://theshaktischool.com/glow-worthy-book/
Instagram: @theshaktischool
 
Natalie Deering:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
      - Mental health therapy and consultation
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Text/Call: (859) 320-0865
Follow on Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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IFS as a Life Practice, with Dr. Richard Schwartz (Re-release from July 31st, 2023)

This December, I want to feature some of my favorite interviews from this year.  The final fourth episode I'm re-releasing is my conversation with IFS inventor Dr. Richard (Dick) Schwartz!  
It was such an honor and a privilege to be able to sit with Dick and interview him about IFS for this episode.  Dr. Richard Schwartz, or Dick as he likes to be called, invented internal family systems therapy over 40 years ago. 
In this episode he dives into the history of IFS and how it came to be and the challenges he faced when brining it into the world of psychology.  He discusses what is IFS, parts, and Self.  He also discusses even further in this episode about the Self.  Dick answers questions such as, what is Self? Are we born with Self energy? How is our system impacted by trauma in childhood? Does Self energy grow as we get older? What happens to Self during a traumatic event? Can we see Self?  and, what are Self-like parts?  Dick also shares what he does on a daily basis to connect with his parts in order to make IFS a life practice.  Enjoy! 
 
Dr. Richard Schwartz and IFS Resources:
Website: https://ifs-institute.com/
Book, No Bad Parts: https://www.amazon.com/No-Bad-Parts-Restoring-Wholeness/dp/1683646681/ref=sr_1_1?crid=PDZJ0U5BKSJG&keywords=no+bad+parts+richard+schwartz&qid=1690574235&sprefix=no+bad+parts%2Caps%2C260&sr=8-1
Instagram: @internalfamilysystems
 
Natalie Deering Resources:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Call/Text: (859) 320-0865
Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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It’s Not Mine and I Don’t Need to Carry It: IFS and Legacy Burdens, with Ann Sinko (Re-release from August 7th 2023)

This December, I want to feature some of my favorite interviews from this year.  The third episode I'm re-releasing is my conversation with IFS lead trainer Ann Sinko discussing legacy burdens. 
 
This episode was a real treat to be able to sit with my IFS Level 1 lead trainer and talk with her about her speciality of legacy burdens.  In the episode Ann shares her history and relationship with IFS, how IFS is a constraint release model, what are legacy burdens, epigenetics, how to identify legacy burdens, adaption and LB's, covert vs. overt ways to get legacy burdens, the 9 rules of shame (used to be 8), and the steps to help address and release legacy burdens.
 
Ann is a senior trainer for the IFS institute and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She was an adjunct professor at Central Connecticut State University in the Marriage and Family Therapy Program for 27 years.  Ann conducts continuing education workshops on legacy burdens and grief retreats in her private practice in Portland, Connecticut. 
 
Ann Sinko Resources:
IFS Online Circle Program: https://courses.ifs-institute.com/sales/ifs_c_irs035190_ifscircle_spring2023_homepage-619825
IFS Continuity Program: https://courses.ifs-institute.com/sales/ifs_irs035430_continuity_spring2023_ifsihomepage-627147
 
Natalie Deering Resources:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Call/Text: (859) 320-0865
Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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IFS and Unattached Burdens: What Are They and How Do We Help Them, with Robert Falconer (Re-release from April 24th, 2023)

This December, I want to feature some of my favorite interviews from this year.  The second episode I'm re-releasing is my conversation with Robert (Bob) Falconer about his book, "The Others Within Us: Internal Family Systems, Porous Mind, and Spirit Possession". 
 
Bob is an IFS practitioner, teacher, and writer.  For the major part of his career he worked with trauma survivors, now focusing on the study and treatment of the others within us, also known as unattached burdens, or UB's for short. We discuss his ten years of work that went into his new book, the history of unattached burdens within his career, case studies that impacted his understanding about UB's, the controversy surrounding UB's, and the seven steps on how to address UB's within someone's system. 
 
This episode was a big deal for me to be able to sit with Bob and have this discussion, and I am honored that Bob will be joining me again on the podcast in 2024 to discuss spirit guides and past lives. Stay tuned! 
 
Enjoy! 
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Robert Falconer:
Website: https://robertfalconer.us/
Book Link: https://www.amazon.com/Others-Within-Us-Internal-Possession/dp/B0C12JXVBJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1WMFC34W8ZF6H&keywords=robert+falconer%27s+book+the+others+within&qid=1701973149&sprefix=the+others+within%2Caps%2C108&sr=8-1
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Natalie Deering:
Website: https://www.ndwellnessservices.com/
Email: ndwellness.services@therapysecure.com
Text: (859) 320-0865
Instagram: @nataliedeering
 
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